A lot is being spoken nowadays about Women empowerment. I would share some of my real life scenarios to elaborate on my thought about the topic.
Scenario 1: One day a colleague was complaining about his health. We started discussing about it and as the discussion progressed he told me that some people in his apartment has put into his wife's head the idea of taking up a job. She instantly found it to be worth and informed her husband to help her in finding a suitable job as she was getting bored of being just a house -wife. But her husband was against the idea as to him "agar woh job karegi to ghar mein khana kaun banayega?" He needs his wife to get up at 5 a.m and cook for him all that he loves to eat and also do the household chores. He doesnt want her to work lest she becomes more smarter than him. Her wife is non-demanding and he thinks himself to be Parameswar who has the authority to scold, abuse or even beat his wife.
Scenario 2: Another colleague added to this point. He wants his wife to be working and never ever leave the job just because he is afraid he cannot meet up the family expenses. His wife will have to contribute in everything he does starting from family expenses and should take care of her own needs. He is not ready to pay her shopping bills, And her wife should be contributing if he buys something for both of them.
Scenario 3: The discussion continued with another colleague informing that her in-laws demanded her salary to be deposited to her husband's account. They asked her how much savings does she have and what all does she do with those money. And definitely she being the " badi bahu" , should wear saree to office, would never wear western and also is expected to cook for them 3 times a day. Even when she was carrying her child her in-laws insisted that she travel all the way from her maternal house to their house. And the moment she reached, her mother-in-law asked her to prepare tea for the whole family knowing pretty well that she is in her ultimate stage of pregnancy.
All the above scenarios let me ponder about the plight of a woman. To me a woman needs equality and freedom to choose her life. She is not a maid servant who would silently work for her husband's happiness and will satisfy all his needs, someone who would cook all the time, does her job and deposits the entire salary to her husband's account. WHY? Why does men think their better halves to be someone with a lot of sacrificing capabilty? Why should a woman be forced to work even if she doesnt want to work? If men can pretend to be householder then why should they not take care of their wives basic needs? Even today many of the people dont like their daughters to wear jeans. They believe in getting them married once they pass college. They dont want them to study further or work just in fear of not getting a decent groom.
Now again my question is why should we demand anything less than equality? Why should not a women be respected for her vital duties? We need empowerment. People should be aware that their daughters are no less than their son. A woman should be respected for her different roles, as a daughter, as a sister, as a wife, as a daughter-in-law, as an executive or as a mother. Starting from getting up early and handle all her roles is what makes her more powerful than anyone else. Without her it will be a different world to live.
Scenario 1: One day a colleague was complaining about his health. We started discussing about it and as the discussion progressed he told me that some people in his apartment has put into his wife's head the idea of taking up a job. She instantly found it to be worth and informed her husband to help her in finding a suitable job as she was getting bored of being just a house -wife. But her husband was against the idea as to him "agar woh job karegi to ghar mein khana kaun banayega?" He needs his wife to get up at 5 a.m and cook for him all that he loves to eat and also do the household chores. He doesnt want her to work lest she becomes more smarter than him. Her wife is non-demanding and he thinks himself to be Parameswar who has the authority to scold, abuse or even beat his wife.
Scenario 2: Another colleague added to this point. He wants his wife to be working and never ever leave the job just because he is afraid he cannot meet up the family expenses. His wife will have to contribute in everything he does starting from family expenses and should take care of her own needs. He is not ready to pay her shopping bills, And her wife should be contributing if he buys something for both of them.
Scenario 3: The discussion continued with another colleague informing that her in-laws demanded her salary to be deposited to her husband's account. They asked her how much savings does she have and what all does she do with those money. And definitely she being the " badi bahu" , should wear saree to office, would never wear western and also is expected to cook for them 3 times a day. Even when she was carrying her child her in-laws insisted that she travel all the way from her maternal house to their house. And the moment she reached, her mother-in-law asked her to prepare tea for the whole family knowing pretty well that she is in her ultimate stage of pregnancy.
All the above scenarios let me ponder about the plight of a woman. To me a woman needs equality and freedom to choose her life. She is not a maid servant who would silently work for her husband's happiness and will satisfy all his needs, someone who would cook all the time, does her job and deposits the entire salary to her husband's account. WHY? Why does men think their better halves to be someone with a lot of sacrificing capabilty? Why should a woman be forced to work even if she doesnt want to work? If men can pretend to be householder then why should they not take care of their wives basic needs? Even today many of the people dont like their daughters to wear jeans. They believe in getting them married once they pass college. They dont want them to study further or work just in fear of not getting a decent groom.
Now again my question is why should we demand anything less than equality? Why should not a women be respected for her vital duties? We need empowerment. People should be aware that their daughters are no less than their son. A woman should be respected for her different roles, as a daughter, as a sister, as a wife, as a daughter-in-law, as an executive or as a mother. Starting from getting up early and handle all her roles is what makes her more powerful than anyone else. Without her it will be a different world to live.
It is the sad plight of our gender that we have never been understood, we have never been listened to. I have argued in my post that we need empathy before equality since without the former, the latter is not possible. Do have a look and share your thoughts.
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We are living in a country which known as worshiper of women. But this impact has been deleted, we need to make it again. Nice post :)
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